I’ve just stumbled across your blog and would like to say hi! I like your writing, your words are very inspiring and i look forward to following your journey.
Chelle =)

I know it seems hard to be in a situation, where you keep coming up against constantly opposing forces and I can empathise that it must be hard, to be involving leagal measures, that have never been needed before.

Yes you can say that there must be a wrong course of action for you, if this problem is still recurrent, but in fairness and kindness to you, you cannot sometimes negotiate with people, whos main aim might be to deprive you of rightful entitlements, or a few deserved rewards from a situation.

For those with whom negotiation is not possible, because one side cannot concede a bit of ground, you mustn’t either, or you will play into their hands, or sacrifice some or all of your unselfish wants, to those more selfish and greedy.

You have a right to protect what is yours to receive and be given, because you are not someone who was just a bit player, then suddenly became more active at key moments, in order to curry favour in others lifes, who is now getting resent from those more active in the lives of others, suddenly takiing more of their perceived rightful share, so why should you be going through this?

You clearly haven’t been doing things for years, that one day would enflame this situation, when it came, but you cannot concede or give an inch to people, who will not do so for you, unless they get more then their share.

Doing that will only show a potentially exploitable weakness, that others could use again.

So despite how diffiuclt it must feel right now, to keep having to tolerate a tough situation, and do things that don’t feel comfortable, is almost certainly the right thing to do.

Your Heart has and should never be a doormat, to be walked on by others, that have a less humanitarian approach to life it would seem.

I feel your words and I think I understand where your emotional comes from. A big Heart straining sometimes, to cope with the emotional trials brought about by others. A heart finding it hard to understand or bring clarity to a situation.

I’m glad that in some ways you feel able to express this. It can only serve to help you and it isn’t for others involved to censor your right ot speak, unless it transgresses law.

Your words show emotion, but also a sense of searching for answers in your mind, and clarification of how you should be.

My feelings are to stick to your guns, trust your intuition, be strong and don’t be anyones fool, or a pushover.

In your life, you have cared for others in the best possible ways. You’ve loved, supproted and cherished lives even those of people you have never known in the flesh. That is a true beauty and a special gift, but it’s a gift for you to give, not for anyone to take, or expect to have.

Whatever happens, you certainly have my deepest empathy, understanding and support misses.

I feel honoured that in some way I inspire yo. That feels very humbling, from someone such as yourself. Sometimes I feel you are too generous with your words, or maybe I’m being modest, because I feel I’m just me, and I’m that for good reasons, not for ones based on self promotion and self importance.

I do feel we are in some ways alike and I thank you for your attitude validating mine. It means a lot to know people like you, that view life in similar ways and I think in some ways, it helps me connect better with you and your lifes trials and successes.

As always, I am here for you anytime, I am very proud of you, and I think you are simply fantastic in so many ways.

I send you BIG HUGS, lots of luck, best wishes and all the support you want to ask of me and I can feasibly give.

Be you and only you, not what others demand you to be. You’re human, and being forced into unnatural situations, that aren’t right or healthy, is not good for anybody, but some positives can come from it, and you certainly have the ability to cope, as long as you remember your worth, and the worth to you of the unselfish outcomes, you want and deserve to have.

GOOD LUCK again.

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Matt